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Parenting plan

If you can cooperate about arrangements for the children, they will adapt much better to the separation. You might need to discuss how much time the children spend with each of you, and how to avoid unnecessary conflict and misunderstandings. In mediation you can decide which issues you want to discuss and how much detail would be helpful. The mediator can help you draw up a Parenting Plan covering some or all of the following:

Living Arrangements

  • Contact with others, e. g. new partner, grandparents
  • Term time
  • School holidays, half-term
  • Special days
  • Birthdays
  • Mother's Day / Father's Day
  • Religious holidays

Care & Discipline

  • Pocket money
  • Presents
  • Bedtime
  • House rules
  • Who may discipline & how?
  • Contact with others
  • Road safety/car seats/kerb drill/cycle helmets
  • Meals, table manners


  • Sports
  • Homework
  • TV/Internet
  • Social Events
  • Clubs
  • Lessons

Health & Medical Needs

  • Emergency Contact
  • Dietary
  • Medicine
  • Treatment
  • Details of GP
  • Dealing with Disability


  • School Report availability
  • Social Events
  • Parent-Teacher meetings
  • Change of School
  • School problems
  • Special needs


  • Changing arrangements
  • Handovers
  • Prior consultation
  • How: by telephone, text, e-mail, meeting?

Remember, this is just a guide, your parenting plan will be unique to you


Mediation is about making positive agreements so that you can move on with your life.

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